Sunday, January 15, 2012

When is the time ever right?

You may know that we are thinking of adding another princess to our house. We actually knew we would add one more princess not long after Arina was home. We talked and decided that after we moved, and had been in our home a year, we would start talking about it again.

Ahem, well we are not in our own home, yet the talk is here.
You can't help yourself, I mean, how can you?

This little girl screamed every time we bathed her for the first 3 months she was home. I felt like I was traumatizing my baby just trying to get her clean!

She had never had a bath, never in her life. She was quickly scrubbed down with a rag, because there were multiple children, and only a few people to bathe them. When I think about the life she would have had, I cringe. That is not something that leaves your mind!

I blame daddy.
Well, it sounds like a good excuse!
But he did fall in love first, and he dragged me right down with him.
With this little peanut, Ruth.
I wish I could make the picture big, but my computer refuses! Her Jaxson fohawk is what first sucked me in.
Funny thing is, daddy found her first, but she is exactly what I wanted. I wanted a child that needed a home a little more urgently because of medical problems. I want to use my experience, take children that other people are a little more afraid to take, because of my training and experience. She has a heart condition, and is said to have malnutrition. But every heart mom knows what malnutrition is in a heart kid, heart failure.
My first worry is a big one. Our last adoption we only raised about 4,000 of the 20,000 we spent on the adoption. We had taken a home equity loan to redo our yard and a few other things, and were able to use some of that money. Not long after our adoption, people started raising crazy amounts. I always joke that we adopted at the wrong time. I mean, people were raising 15,000+ on a single giveaway! Unfortunately, she went up on Reeces Rainbow after the Christmas Warriors started, so she missed out on that extra fundraising. Thats not going to stop us from the child we feel is ours. We just don't have the home equity loan to dive into if we don't raise the full amount. Scary thought!
For all you that may not know, most of us adoptive families have plenty to give to an additional child. But not too many people have 20,000+ sitting in a bank account to spend on the initial costs. I am not touching money I have in emergency accounts, as no one should. That is needed for just that, an emergency!
And of course we haven't bought our house yet. When I said we weren't adopting yet because we are still renting, many people asked why? Well, I guess I don't really have to, many people that adopt are renting. And while I feel like this house is too small for us, I do know of some adoptive families that have many more children in the same square feet we have now. So I guess I'm not really sure why that matters. The house will probably be bought and moved into before we are even able to travel, since this process takes months.

So we are giving ourselves a little time to talk, ponder, and pray, if this is the right time. We can't wait much longer though, because this muffin doesn't have the time to waste!
Just like this other little muffin, I'd like to get her to a loving home ASAP


Zoey's mom, Heather said...

You will know when the time is right my friend. That much I am sure of.

The drinking out of the faucet was my favorite. So darling.

Kristin said...

Love the bath pics. I have to stop myself from looking on the RR site too often. I don't want to fall in love with all those cuties (just yet). I think to myself all the time - if we had the money, would I be ready right now? And I'm not sure I am. My personality needs one toddler at a time. I think your's thrives and a busy to-do list. Wish I thrived more on 'being busy'. Decisions decisions. I always fall back on "do I want more laundry right now? nah" ;) Go with your heart!

stephanie said...

Love her!!! Guzzling from the faucet! What a nut!!

Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
Martin Luther King, Jr.

We'll be right there with you!!

stephanie said...

Oh and btw, Ruth has a prayer warrior. So someone is already praying for you!

Shelly Turpin said...

no advice, but your children are beautiful! We got called about a baby last week. It breaks my heart that any child isn't wanted and cherished. But we aren't even home study ready. been praying for that baby that she'll find her family meant for her.

The VW's said...

Love the pics of your sweet girl! Hope you are given clear answers about when to adopt again! The way I look at is......when are we ever ready to have another child, no matter how you obtain that child? There will always be a reason to wait! Children are worth whatever we have to put aside to have them, because the good outweighs what we may have to give up to be able to love them care for them!

Marianne said...

I'm so excited for you guys!! And you are so right - so what if you're renting and your house isn't as big as you'd like? It's a castle compared to what those children have. And in addition to a warm place to call home, a child would have the love and care she'd need in your family!

Runningmama said...

So excited for you! Another princess, so sweet!

Linnea said...

A new baby! Yay! One less orphan. I know you didnt like my blog post about money but I still stand firm that if we do what the Lord asks He will provide. I believe so much in that. There are always millions of reasons not to adopt. There will always be nay sayers like the comment on here about not buying babies...which was so eloquently put I might add, lol.

But I stand firm in my belief- God is our provider and God loves us, He wants us to care for the widows orphans and fatherless and if He put this on your heart He will see it through.

Praying for you.

Be blessed


Linnea said...

Oh..I just remembered it was another blogger who didnt like my blog about money not you. Sorry. I follow so many. haha

Be blessed

Lacey said...

I was going to say Ashley, I don't think that was me! LOL. You do what you can to give these children a life. After you see the change, you know that all children deserve a loving home!

Anonymous said...

I am so glad you are considering adopting again! You are a wonderful mom and this baby would have so many opportunities with your family. I hope that everyone who reads your blog will pray for your family and donate what they can so this baby can have a family of her own.


Scrappy quilter said...

I agree, you'll know when the time is right. We hadn't even finished signing M's final papers and we were already in the process of adopting C. (We adopted within country.) I'm so excited you are wanting to adopt again. As to those who leave stupid comments...delete them and pay no attention to them. There are many of us who support you in whatever decision you guys make. I'm one of them. Hugs

Becca said...

That's so exciting, Lacey!!! You've got an amazing family to offer to a child without one.

LOVE the pics. Arina's just the cutest, cutest, CUTEST!!

Proud Grandma said...

If you and your hubby feel the time is right then that is all that matters -you are both great parents and any child would be lucky to get to call you Mommy & Daddy

Rochelle said...

Leap of faith my friend. Can't wait until you make it official.
I agree with Stephanie!
If you are following where God is asking he will provide.

Not a Perfect Mom said...

there's never a right time...whether it's a pregnancy or an adoption...
talk to Patti, her fundraising is crazy...she raises tons for families, I just donated a Kindle I won for her last one where the fam got 15 grand...

DevonLeah said...

So sweet! Always love your pics.
We are currently in the process of adopting. Not from RR, but from the foster care. That is just where God lead me one day...either way kids find permanently loving homes, right?! MY point it, lol, that your post today was an encouragement to me!! When IS the right time? People have to look in and think, "what is she doing??" We have 5, our last had major med needs,(but doing much better) we are renting, etc...but when your heart is there you cant help it! You have so much on your plate, yet you are DOING it, and that is amazing. God is good....thanks for sharing!!! ((hugs)))

The Snell Family said...

Adoption or the old fashion way, there is never a perfect time. I know baby Ossie was meant to be here with us now, I just haven't figured out how we will pay all the doc hospital bills, $7500 may not seem like much when you are looking at $20,000, but we all do what we feel is right in our hearts. I hope you can get yourself that little sweetie that is waiting for you. Sending prayers your way.

Chromosomally Enhanced said...

this is awesome! you all are awesome! love the bath pix and cannot wait to hear your journey again to get your little girl! the time will come and it will be right! and just work! yeah for our kids! smiles

yourhandsinmine said...

I hope you are able to rescue that sweet beauty. And I will do whatever I can to help spread the word when you fund raise and help in ANY other way that I can!

It never ceases to amaze me to see kids after they've been adopted as compared to before. These kids are often left because supposedly they can't be helped and will never be anything ... well with love and a family it is absolutely amazing what can happen!

To Love Endlessly said...

praying for guidance sweet mama! She'll be such a lucky girl if the doors continue to open for you!

Hope said...

Omgosh, Can she get any cuter!?

I love your family! When you feel the time is right, do it!!

Ruby's Mom said...

I agree with the others about the bath pictures,they are so cute! How sad that she had never had a bath before.
I love the picture of her and Jax,very sweet.
I hope you are able to adopt that precious baby.If you do and have a fundraiser I would like to crochet something to donate.