Friday, December 21, 2012

Ignorance

Yesterday I took Jax to meet a new ped, whom I loved and I think she'll be what we have been looking for!
Anyway, getting in the elevator came a mom and her son, ten or eleven years old. He wouldn't get in the elevator. He didn't want to get in with Jax. He said he was "gross." The mom coaxed him in, shushing him and whispering, that's not nice. She even tried changing the subject to homework. Never did she make him apologize to me for what her son said.

This could have been a teaching moment. I know that, after all I teach all day, every day! I'm constantly teaching people of all ages about Jax, and that he's just a little boy!
But yesterday, I wasn't a teacher. I was a mom. A mom so upset by the constant stares and nasty remarks from people. I just broke, I couldn't do it that day. All I could do that day was be the better person and just keep my mouth shut! Because believe me, I had a few choice words for not only the kid, (who was definitely old enough to know better!) but his mother, who obviously hasn't taught her son any kind of manners!
I missed it, I missed a teaching moment. But I am only human, and I can only take so much!

So as I put my angel to bed last night, I just kissed those beautiful cheeks and apologized to him for this world we live in. And thanked God that he doesn't understand any of it. I take that burden from him, because I can handle it.
Most of the time.


14 comments:

charity said...

i am so sorry you and jaxson had to go through that. that mother should have apologized for her son.

Anonymous said...

How sad for that mother and boy, to not know the joy of the specialness that is Jax, to know the joy of loving someone who may not be able to show it back in the way the world would want, but can show love in a way that lasts.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry that happened to you. We had an equally hurtful day yesterday; a school my son has been at since age 3 (he is 9 now) excluded him from holiday events because he is too "retarded to notice". I didn't know until another mom mentioned it to me. I have no words to express how sad it is that parents feel it's ok to raise kids that don't care.

Anonymous said...

Wow. That hurt me when I read it. Yes, it was a teachable moment but you shouldn't have to live your life around those while out with your sweet son. Your focus is obviously on all of his other special needs that are not being addressed at the moment. Like finding a caring qualified doctor who will listen and do what is in Jax best interest not what is in the interest of the doctor. You as a mom should not have to fight so darn hard for for child but I'm so glad he has you because apparently in this world people can't seem to do the right things so fighting is a necessary evil. He knows you will never give up on him. You love him dearly and that's very apparent. If only the rest of the world could see and understand that. Maybe it would be one less thing to worry about. One can only hope. Sending warm wishes to your family for the holidays!!

Vivielle said...

So sorry to hear that. Jax is in no way gross. He's a beautiful, sweet little boy!

Chromosomally Enhanced said...

This just pisses me off...I have had a similar experience with Maddie...and I want to teach in these moments by I clam up and get a big nervous pitted feeling in my tummy...I almost freeze with fear of what more will be said...what saddens me is that the boy will not learn from this moment...he will not learn to be empathetic...and he will or learn about the beauty of the world around him...because his normal is a box...Jax makes me happy and makes me smile...and to see him would to be a honor...smiles

Warrior Mom said...

Jax, always beautiful. Love you sweet boy.

momof4inNY said...

This really ticks me off! Several years ago 2 older women were whispering about my daughter-she has CP so she in toes bad and walks with a limp. I was so angry but said nothing-I just moved Kaycie along. Looking back I really wish I would have said something. Jax is a beautiful boy whom I wish I could meet!!

Lindsay Marie said...

I'm so sorry :( People can be extremely cruel.

Rochelle said...

Sorry my friend. Truly sad that some parents don't teach their kids any better. You didn't miss a teachable moment we all need a break from the world every now and then just to shelter and love and not worry what anyone else thinks.
Love you and Merry Christmas. Give those cuties a smooch from us.

Jackie Mulholland said...

How rude and what an awful child and parent. YOU did not miss a teachable moment THAT mother did! Im so sorry your sweet Jax had to be subjected to that!

Colleen said...

I know that just getting to an appointment is exhausting enough and then having to deal with rude people on top of it all. Uggh! If only they knew the joy and sweetness Jax brings into the world!

Roo's Mom said...

I cried when I read your post. Jax is beautiful. So sad for that other boy to view your son that way, and sad for his mother not to have had a "teachable moment" right then and there with her child.

Anonymous said...

Jax is beautiful and precious!!!! I just always feel like my son should not have to teach the world manners or simple kindness, he's been through enough!!! That is the parents job, and if its an adult, they should know better. And because I am super mature one time this little girl was saying mean things about my son, so when her mom wasn't looking I stuck my toung out at her! I had had it that day!